My "Supportive" Family

I am so sick of my family right now. Do you know how long I have waited to get married? It feels like forever. And all they can do is complain about my wedding. What is their problem? Whenever I turn around it seems like someone is criticizing my wedding plans. Not that color, not those people, not that way….do it my way! That’s what it sounds like they’re saying. Don’t do the wedding the way you want it done, do it my way! Why can’t they just understand what I want and leave me alone. I swear to you my Mom has even got our pastor involved in this. She told me not to underestimate the beauty of simplicity. “Simplicity” she says. Well….I’m not a simple person! I want a big wedding with a ton of people. It’s not that I want to spend a ton of money, but that’s what happens when you have a big wedding. All my friends have had big weddings and their families were fine with that, why can’t mine be fine with that.
Today my Grandma said something that really hurt. (Keep in mind that my Grandma got married at her parents house with the justice of the peace. What kind of marriage is that?) She said Cody and I didn’t even need a wedding because, according to common law marriage, we’ve been married since we moved in together. How is that a marriage? How is living together the same as being promised to each other in front of God and everyone we love. I felt like telling her that if she felt that way there wasn’t any reason she should come to the wedding. I didn’t because I knew my Mom would kill me.
I mean, what’s wrong with wanting to have a big wedding? This is my day to be a princess. The only opportunity I have in this life and I’m going to take it. For one day, everyone will be gathered together for me. A girl dreams about this time in her life, doesn’t she? I mean, after all these years of waiting for a wedding don’t I deserve the wedding I want to have?
Maybe I should take off and get married somewhere else, like Vegas or the Bahamas. Anywhere that’s away from my family. I feel like they don’t even care if I get married at all. Maybe I just shouldn’t invite any of them. Have my big wedding and not invite them. If they can’t celebrate with me I’ll do it with out them…..but I’m not sure that would feel like a wedding either.
Argh!!!! Why can’t they just be happy for me?